One Man's Meat
By PHILIP GOLINGAI
The Obedient Wives Club (OWC) controversial pocket-sized Malay-language sex guide sold exclusively to its members is more of a mother’s labour of love for her son who was getting married.
IF I got RM50 for every time someone asked me a copy of Seks Islam, I would be as rich as Alex Comfort, the author of The Joy of Sex.
On Oct 21, in Petaling Jaya, at a press conference organised by Obedient Wives Club (OWC), the author of Seks Islam, Perangi Yahudi Untuk Kembalikan Seks Islam Kepada Dunia (Islamic Sex, Fighting Jews to Return Islamic Sex to the World), Hatijah Aam (pic) gifted the book to journalists.
Speaking via Skype from Mecca in Saudi Arabia, Hatijah, the OWC founder, told the club members: “Please present the book now to the media representatives.”
“We don’t want to hide it. We want to be transparent.
“We want to show that we are not hiding our (sex) knowledge,” she said.
And the dozen or so journalists became proud owners of the controversial pocket-sized Malay-language sex guide sold exclusively to OWC members for RM50.
Instantly, When I – @philipgolingai – “live” tweeted that I had a copy, I received several requests for a copy.
In my office, almost everybody I met was excited over my owning THE book except for this one guy who got aroused for the wrong reason. He thought I had a copy of the Auditor-General’s Report.
It seems everyone I knew lusted for the knowledge on how to graduate from kindergarten-level sex to PhD-level sex.
Who wouldn’t want to read a book advocating “spiritual sex” (a man could “come” spiritually to all his wives simultaneously even though they’re in Ipoh, Kuala Lumpur, Singapore and Johor)?
And, by the day, the book is getting more notorious. Last week, the Sarawak government banned the distribution of Seks Islam in the state.
As my friends flipped through the book, their initial remarks were: “No picture ah?” or “No graphics ah? All words?”.
Sorry to disappoint, but the book isn’t the Comfort’s titillatingly illustrated Joy of Sex.
In fact, the 115-page booklet was a mother’s labour of love for her son who was getting married.
The preamble to Seks Islam – from its research – OWC found that what a woman sexually provided her husband was 10% of what his real sexual needs were.
“The wife thinks her 10% is 100%. She’s also dumb not to want to be taught about sex. She has a prejudiced perception that sex is obscene,” wrote Hatijah.
Chapter one explains why OWC was formed, chapter two talks about Hatijah’s husband, the late Al-Arqam founder Ashaari Muhammad, chapter three about giving 100% loyalty to your husband, chapter four is a guide for the future groom and chapter five is a letter to the bride.
Yawn. Yawn. Nothing that really makes me blush.
A friend, however, told me to check out page 75 as it contained "graphic description".
"Belum pun jemu, berhiburan di bibir mulut, tangan suamiku seperti tidak mampu dikawal-kawal untuk segara menangkap buah-buah dadaku dan diramas-ramaskan dan dimain-mainkan putingnya sepenuh hatinya. Aku pula mengalami rasa nikmat yang tidak terperi," Hatijah wrote in Malay.
Roughly translated: "I was not yet bored with oral 'entertainment' but my husband could not control his hands and they quickly caught my breasts and with his heart's content he squeezed and played with my nipples. And I experienced a pleasure which was not painful."
Hatijah also explained the difference between a man and a woman.
A man is held hostage by his desire. In order words, just like peeing, when a man has to go, he has to go.
A woman, however, can turn off and turn on her sexual desire as if it were a switch.
“If a wife loves her husband, she must instantly fulfil his sexual needs,” she advocated.
The climax of the book is in its conclusion.
Hatijah writes about her two-month training with Ashaari to become a heroic and angelic wife.
And she revealed her late husband could perform sex simultaneously with his wives, spiritually.
“Intimacy is much more pleasurable and ‘lighter’ through spiritual sex compared with physical sex,” she wrote.
Hatijah writes about seks serentak (simultaneous sex) but she does not reveal how to do it spiritually.
Perhaps, as she said in the press conference, what was taught in Seks Islam was just the tip of the iceberg (20%) of her sex knowledge.
So what has the book – as its title suggests – got to do with Jews?
From what I gather Jews have been propagating “extremely pornographic” illicit sex.
Am I missing something in life?
I’m not sure what I was expecting from the book. Techniques on how to please a Uranus chick with eight breasts?
For all its hype, reading the hyped book was an anti-climax.
Monday, October 31, 2011
One Man's Meat
Monday, October 24, 2011
One Man's Meat
By PHILIP GOLINGAI
The Obedient Wives Club wanted to keep it under the covers but since it leaked out, interest for its sex-guide book has yet to reach a climax.
FRIDAY’S press conference by the Obedient Wives Club (OWC) reminded me of Salt-n-Pepa’s 1991 hit song Let’s Talk About Sex.
The hip-hop song goes: “Let’s talk about sex. Yo, I don’t think we should talk about this. C’mon, why not? People might misunderstand what we’re tryin’ to say, you know? No, but that’s a part of life.”
That about sums up the exasperation of the club embroiled in a controversy after it published a pocket-sized 115-page Malay-language book titled Seks Islam, Perangi Yahudi Untuk Kembalikan Seks Islam Kepada Dunia (Islamic Sex, Fighting Jews to Return Islamic Sex to the World).
To clarify media reports that the book encouraged a man to have an orgy with all of his wives, five OWC officials (including two men) met the press.
At the start of the 90-minute press conference in Petaling Jaya, OWC national chairman in Malaysia Fauziah Ariffin read a statement from Hatijah Aam, the club founder.
Hatijah, one of the wives of the late Al-Arqam founder Ashaari Muhammad, said the sex guide was only for OWC members who were married.
“We are disappointed with those who distributed the book without our knowledge until it created a misunderstanding,” she said.
Fauziah then tackled the controversial issue of “seks serentak (simultaneous sex)”.
“Simultaneous does not mean that on the bed there is one man and four women,” she said with a sarcastic laugh.
“When a man has reached a high level of spirituality, his wali (spiritual guardian) can come in contact with his wives wherever they are.
“Maybe one wife is in Ipoh, another in Kuala Lumpur, in Singapore or in Johor but he can ‘come’ to his wife simultaneously. That is the wonder of spiritual sex.”
Wow! I thought. Note to myself: evolve from missionary position. But was “spiritual sex” possible, I wondered.
As if reading my thoughts, Dr Azlina Jamaluddin, a dentist and OWC leader, said it was not something a common person could comprehend.
“To you there might be no logic to what we are saying,” Dr Azlina explained. “But when Prophet Noah built an ark on a mountain at that time there was no logic in what he was doing.”
Mohd Rasidi, a male member of the panel, claimed what was taught in the book was “high level” sex. “It is PhD-level,” he said.
“To understand the book,” said Fauziah, “the author of the book herself wants to talk to the media via Skype from Mecca.”
And Hatijah’s voice filled the conference room.
In an exasperated tone, the 57-year-old Malaysian woman based in Saudi Arabia said the club purposely did not sell the book to non-members because the public would not be able to comprehend it.
In other words, you and I are practising “kindergarten-level sex” as compared with “PhD-level sex”.
And, quoting the Quran, Hatijah went deep into the theory of “spiritual sex”.
Here are some of Hatijah’s insights on sex.
> If your spirit is pure you can have sex with your wife even though you are abroad fighting a war.
> God allows sex sports. And to be good in sex you need practice.
> Orgasm releases a pain killer and helps with fever. But don’t have affairs on the pretext of curing your fever.
> Orgasm prevents wrinkles.
> Sex can make you younger. Jogging can be replaced by “sexcercise”.
> Only animals have sex without mukadimah (foreplay).
> It is important for a woman’s breasts to be sucked in order to prevent breast cancer (quoting a BBC news report).
During the Q&A session, I asked: “I’m curious, has the panel experienced simultaneous sex? Have you reached the PhD-level of sex?”
And – I’m not sure whether I imagined this – the panel members lowered their heads as if they felt sexually inadequate.
After a hush-hush discussion among themselves, Mohd Rasidi said: “So far, it is a knowledge that we are still trying to understand.
“We have not experienced it as our roh (spirit) has not reached PhD-level,” he explained.
“How about Hatijah?” I asked.
And Azlina, the dentist, said: “We have not experienced it yet. We are still trying. The person who has experienced it is Hatijah Aam. Hopefully one day, God willing, we can reach that level.”
Hatijah also revealed that she was writing a second sex guide book.
“The first book revealed 20% (sex knowledge). But the second book will reveal 100%. But we will make sure the public will not get their hands on this book about heaven on earth,” she added.
Monday, October 17, 2011
One Man's Meat
By PHILIP GOLINGAI
The five wooden restaurants in Kampung Orang Asli Sungai Temon are perhaps the only orang asli seafood restaurants in the country. Not surprising is that the restaurants are run by the Orang Seletar, or the Orang Laut, who depend on the sea for a living.
CAN you image “orang asli” and “seafood restaurant” in the same sentence?
Last month when googling “seafood restaurant + Johor Baru” I was dumbfounded to discover there were several orang asli seafood restaurants along the coast of Johor.
I told myself I must check out an orang asli seafood restaurant when I’m in JB as I was curious to know the dishes it served. Garoupa steamed with petai? Prawn cooked in bamboo?
When I was in JB to write about the Orang Seletar, an orang asli community who used to be sea nomads, People’s Progressive Party (PPP) Johor chairman Datuk Dr Siva Kumar introduced his orang asli bureau chief Eddy anak Salim to me.
Eddy’s family owns Salim seafood restaurant in Kampung Orang Asli Sungai Temon, a fishing village at Danga Bay. The villagers are Orang Seletar (also called Orang Laut), who make a living from the sea.
As you enter the wooden restaurant on stilts, you’re greeted by a signboard written in Orang Seletar language: Salemat Kian Kaun. Man Kedai Kami (roughly translated: Welcome. Eat at our shop).
The open-air restaurant has a view of Johor Baru city and Singapore’s Woodlands.
And what we ate in the restaurant was ... surprise, surprise ... seafood dishes typically found in Chinese-owned seafood restaurants.
“Why Chinese-styled seafood dishes?” I asked Eddy, a 32-year-old Orang Seletar.
“My father (Salim anak Palun, the 50-year-old Tok Batin, or village head, of Kampung Orang Asli Sungai Temon) learned to cook Chinese food. And our customers (from Johor and Singapore) prefer this style of cooking,” he related.
Eddy then told the story of his forward-thinking father who probably started the first orang asli-owned seafood restaurant in Malaysia.
“My father was unlike other orang asli of his generation. He mixed with other races and he learnt from them,” he said.
Salim owned fish, prawn and clam farms in the fishing village founded by his father Palun anak Teton from a mangrove jungle.
“But 20 years ago my father knew his livelihood would not last forever as he saw that development would pollute the waters where we made a living,” Eddy said.
“So, my dad decided to fulfil my grandfather’s wish to turn his tuckshop into a seafood restaurant.”
When Salim seafood restaurant became popular, Eddy’s relatives living in Kampung Orang Asli Sungai Temon also opened their own restaurants. Now there are five wooden seafood restaurants in the fishing village.
But Eddy’s clan is an exception among the Orang Seletar community in Johor.
Perhaps their village’s proximity to Johor Baru played a role in them rising out of poverty.
Many Orang Seletar living in relatively remote coastal areas in Johor are finding it difficult to eke out a living.
“For example, at Sungai Tiram, they are not educated and not all of them want to work in a factory,” explained Eddy, who is an SPM graduate.
“They’d rather make a living out of nature just like our ancestors. But the oil palm plantations and sand mining companies are polluting the rivers and the sea where they usually fish.”
The villagers whom I met at Perkampungan Orang Asli Kampung Pasir Salam at Sungai Tiram are proud of their heritage.
They related how the Orang Laut used to command Tebrau Strait and the coasts of Johor and Singapore.
“As late as 1980s, some Orang Laut still lived in sampans. That was our way of life.
“We were born in sampans, we lived in sampans and we died in sampans,” said Eddy.
As I savoured the sweet and sour crab and buttered prawn during my 3pm lunch, primary school boys (Eddy’s cousins) were living the idyllic life – jumping into the sea from a stilted restaurant in Kampung Orang Asli Sungai Temon.
But development is rapidly encroaching into their life.
From the restaurant, you can hear the construction of the multi-million Danga Bay development.
The big question mark for the Orang Seletar, who have lived in the village for three generations, is whether Kampung Orang Asli Sungai Temon has to make way for a concrete seafront jungle.
Dr Siva believes an amiable solution can be found between the villagers and the developer.
Rapid development has also polluted the surrounding waters in the fishing village.
“Twenty years ago it was easy for us to make a living from the sea. In two weeks we could get RM1,000 worth of catch,” Eddy related.
“Now, you’re lucky if you can get RM20 worth of catch in a day. We cannot depend on the sea anymore.”
Now the seafood restaurant business is more dependable.
Monday, October 10, 2011
ONE MAN'S MEAT
By PHILIP GOLINGAI
Having to settle a broom fight between two 60-something neighbours, play private investigator and exorcise ghosts are but some of the more interesting tasks asked of an MP.
POLITICIANS tweet. They do it mostly to gain a point or two over their political rivals. But their tweets also give an insight into the life of a politician.
One politician whom I follow on Twitter is @limlipeng – Segambut MP Lim Lip Eng. Occasionally, Lim will tweet about the “innocent but ridiculous” requests he gets from his constituents.
@limlipeng tweeted: “A parent wants me to run background check on his soon(-to-be) daughter-in-law. Grr ...”
“These parents from Jinjang asked me to find out the marital status of their 20-something son’s future wife (who is 10 years older than him),” the DAP politician explained.
“They heard rumours that she was a divorcee or was staying with another boyfriend and they wanted me to do PI (private investigator) work for them.”
Lim told them that their son was an adult and they could not control him for the rest of his life.
Who do you call when you live in a condominium facing a stretch along busy Jalan Kuching that is accident-prone and believed to be haunted? Ghostbuster Lim.
“I’ve received at least three complaints from people living in that condominium.
“They told me that a particular spot is accident-prone because a ghost appears in the middle of the night to frighten motorists,” the Segambut MP said at his service centre facing Jalan Kuching.
“They told me to ‘cleanse’ the road but I’ve not done it yet.”
Lim also tweeted about settling a broom fight between two 60-something neighbours over a parking lot in front of their luxury homes in a gated community in Desa Park City.
“They quarrelled using vulgar words in Cantonese.
“One ‘auntie’ could not take the verbal abuse and she took a broom to whack the other ‘auntie’. And the son – who saw his mother being beaten – told the assailant that he would kill all her family members,” he said.
The assailant lodged a police report about the death threat and the man (a senior government officer) ended up in a Jinjang lock-up.
He called Lim to settle the case, who managed to get the case withdrawn by asking the man to apologise to his neighbour.
The Segambut MP’s job also involved negotiating a former VIP’s loan shark debt.
“I received a call from a Datuk who lives in Taman Tun Dr Ismail.
“When we met at a nearby coffeeshop, he showed me photographs of him with prominent leaders, including national and foreign dignitaries taken about 20 to 30 years ago,” he said.
“He said he helped a friend who was in deep financial trouble to borrow money from some Ah Long. However, his friend ran away and could not be traced.
“The Datuk gave me the names of five Ah Long and asked me to negotiate with them to delay payment of the debt (about RM80,000) for about two weeks.”
The Segambut MP tweeted: “Two of the five Ah Long agreed to extend payments owed by a Datuk in TTDI to end of the month. This is the best I can do for him.”
Once, Lim was approached by a 50-something woman who claimed to be a journalist with a “critical link” to a case involving a prominent Taiwanese politician who killed a political rival in Taiwan 10 years ago.
“I met her and she showed me photographs of her with Taiwan President Ma Ying-jeou, former Taiwan president Chen Shui-bian, Taiwanese Cabinet ministers and high-ranking bosses of Sin Chew Jit Poh (Chinese daily).
“She wanted me to organise a press conference to highlight that Taiwanese hitmen were pursuing her,” he said.
Lim told her that he would only organise a press conference if she lodged a police report. However, the woman refused, alleging that Malaysian police were in cahoots with the Taiwanese killers.
Twitter is also a medium for the MP to interact with his constituents.
@nizran77 tweeted: “@limlipeng: Besides looking for potholes in @ttdiTV, can you add: Remove Massage + Ah Long ads? Annoying!”
Lim replied: “It’s on my list.”
“Any weird request that you’ve not tweeted about?” I asked Lim. He grinned.
There are times when the happily-married MP has to entertain “dirty calls”. And it is not about dirty drains, but rather female admirers who want to vividly describe their sexual acts with their ex-boyfriends.
That and receiving life-threatening calls all seem to be part of a YB’s job.